Inside you feel like you are sinking. Broken hearted, drowning in grief, or digging deeper into depression. Do you hide your hurt? Who do you hide it from?
For me I hid it from just about everyone – my friends, my family, my husband, and sometimes even from God. I didn’t want anyone to know that I was imploding. I didn’t know what was wrong with me, what I had done wrong, or more importantly how to fix it. I saw others get pregnant with what seemed like no issues (if they had infertility I didn’t know it). I saw women upset that they had become pregnant, women not caring for the child they were carrying, or had already had. I worked in a career that brought lots of people to my attention that were not caring for their children. How could God give them a child or children but not me?
I finally realized that I couldn’t judge those women. I didn’t know their story or their hurt. Keep in mind that was a long road or realization, but I had to let go of that hurt. Was it fair that I was dealing with infertility, no. However, it was not my fault or the other women’s fault that I was dealing with infertility. I couldn’t blame myself or blame them as they were just as innocent in my diagnosis as I was. Plus, they had no idea what my story was so I couldn’t hold them responsible.
I was blessed with an amazing support system that I realized just how important they were. They could lift my spirit, make me laugh when I wanted to cry, or if I cried they would join me. We need to share our hurt and not keep it hidden. It is not healthy to keep it bottled up. At some point the pressure in that bottle will explode, and from my experience it typically does not explode at the best time, place, or person.
You may not have a huge support system, but you have us. You may not know how to deal with the pressure building up, but we are here. You may not know the best way to deal with how you feel, but we are here to listen. Will you trust us, and remove the top from the bottle of emotions you are storing? You may choose to completely remove the top, or maybe just release it a little at a time. Regardless we are here, and want to support you on this journey. Do not continue to hide your hurt, let yourself begin to heal your hurt.
Faith Like Hannah 